Anxiety is a disorder that can disturb a persons mind to an extent where they lose control over their actions e.g. thinking and decision making. This sense of instability makes it hard for a patient to carry on leading a normal life. When anxiety takes hold it forces the patient into believing that they no longer have any say on matters of importance like decision making etc. All this can have a devastating effect on the sufferer as well as all concerned parties around them.
With the help of modern science we have modern medicine and treatments and if supervised by a governing body of the medical profession along with your modern way of thinking and that is to believe in yourself and recognise your illness then the help out there will certainly give you hope in having a brighter future.
It is no wonder why anxiety is diagnosed as a mental health disorder when it can cause so much havoc in the upper region. Some patients lost hope where they believed their anxiety was beyond repair. Unfortunately they became a victim of their own thoughts that was to give them the only solution to their problem and that was to commit suicide.
We all know the feeling of anxiety where the fear factor sets in and we imagine that something awful or nasty is about to happen. If faced with difficult times e.g. like an upheaval in life, divorce or losing someone close are all situations that can be identified to the cause of anxious moments.
There are different types of anxiety; therefore the importance of speaking with a doctor is imminent so the right course of medicine or treatment can be prescribed. Mild bouts of anxiety are common and present in a great many of our lives, but for the more severe cases anxiety bouts now become attacks which is a major worry.
Doctors dedicated in this field will diagnose an anxiety disorder if the patients tension level scales to high and stays with the sufferer for several months. If the patient can not pin point a reason behind his anxiety then it is right to stick with the prognosis of it actually being anxiety. The reason being is, depression stands in the way of diagnoses due to similarities of symptoms for both disorders. What the doctor has to decipher is whether the patient has depression with anxiety symptoms or vice or versa as in i.e. is anxiety the cause of their depression.
The effect anxiety has on each individual differs in many ways; some people are prone to the psychological/emotional side of things. When other people are tortured by the effects physically
The Psychological downside to anxiety comes in the form of inability to concentrate along with irritability. A patient experiences constant worry which can lead to sense of fearful anticipation. Lack of sleep is a strong symptom causing fatigue to take the whole body.
The Physical effects can be pains where the patient feels tightness in the chest. Breathing is affected. Loss of appetite, sex drive goes down hill and visits to the loo are more frequent (Urinating) sickness dizziness headaches and muscle tension are just a few to mention of the symptoms.
Anxiety if permitted will devour any thoughts you have on leading a normal life if you leave it to fester and rot inside like maggots eating away at a corpse. This can be all prevented if you seek advice early on any concerns you may have relating to your health or that of someone close.
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When we were talking the other day we started to think about our heroes when we were young. After we had discussed the usual film star and sports stars that we idolised I remembered Derek. Derek was a couple of years ahead of me in school and he had everything; he always got straight ‘A’s’ and was formidable on the football field as well as one of the fastest over 100 metres. What’s more he didn’t appear to work at it. When the rest of us were ’slaving’ away at our homework or sweating buckets trying to impress on the football field or athletics track he just turned up and got on with it. A natural, was how one of our teachers described him.
Natural or hero, Derek caused me and others a lot of pain. His skills and our hero worship caused us to begin the ‘beating yourself up’ process. You know the; ‘I’m not good enough’. ‘If only I could do that’.’ I couldn’t possibly do that’. The self defeating traits of inadequacy, insecurity and worthlessness and constant comparison with others all started here. With Derek, we started the comparison programme.
Comparison is just another name for subservience. When you compare yourself to someone you are really accepting that you are impressed by them, you want them to influence your life and are willingly bowing down to their perceived skills and abilities. The problem with subservience is that you can never be free. It takes away all your happiness and power. You end up confused and wilting like a flower.
The fact is comparing yourself with others not only stops you from being successful, it’s destructive. As, Elizabeth Fisher an American author, stated;
‘comparison is a death knell to sibling harmony’.
Suggesting that the minute you compare yourself with anybody the relationship is always going to be powerless. Because you are now in a subservient relationship.
The truth is that only prices, products and stores can be compared. Not people. You can compare key data any product, price or service. So when you compare yourself with others are you a product, price or service?
Remember those essays from school and university where you were always asked to compare and contrast something with the aim of showing the similarities and differences of an argument etc. But how do you do this with people? What is being compared or contrasted? How are people similar? Height, weight, age, the clothes they wear, walk, where they live, the cars they drive, their salary, their achievements, their views ?
Do you compare yourself with others?
Who do you compare yourself with?
What are the attributes you compare?
Are you comparing like with like?
You can compare males and females and they way they perform tasks, parents against children, different age groups. You can compare how your opinions are similar or different. But the best you can get is that you are mostly similar or mostly different. What about jealousy? How do you measure that?
You can compare products with different versions. But people? How do you compare yourself with your parents or grandparents? You could be like Shakespeare and compare yourself against nature i.e. beauty with day and night. But not compare one person against another.
Comparing yourself with others is like putting yourself in a prison. A prison which can only bring pain. A prison that stops you from experiencing your true talents. No one puts you in this prison, you do it all by yourself. You simply learn, as I did, not to accept yourself and reject who you really are in favour for what you perceive another person has. In other words you give yourself a hard time and delay your own growth because you thought the other person was better than you.
Trust yourself, you have all the skills you need to succeed. All you need is a change of process.
Stop judging yourself. Instead of comparing yourself with others, subverting your own power and constantly under performing; focus on your potential. What you want to be.
Meditate on where you want to be.
Imagine yourself achieving your potential. What does it look like, what does it feel like.
Surround yourself with images and artefacts depicting the future you and gradually, you will become what you always wanted to be.
The more you believe in your capabilities the more your behaviour will change. Access the hidden skills you have. Trust in yourself. You have far more skills and abilities than you are using at present.
If you have heroes then beware you could be taking away your skills, your individualism and making yourself subservient for the rest of your life. In which case who needs heroes?
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If you read Monday’s article you will have seen we were bullish crude oil and unleaded gasoline based upon geo political concerns and are looking for a big move up to test contract highs.
We did not get any strength on Monday, but prices have bottomed today and are moving higher. Could this see another test of the highs or will the bears take control?
Geo political reasons will keep prices firm
Forget the supply and demand situation - it’s geo political concerns that are the major driving force in crude and unleaded gasoline and we have an important meeting on Thursday.
The 35-nation board of the International Atomic Energy Agency is scheduled to meet in Vienna on Thursday to debate the situation.
Can there be a compromise?
The problem with the whole Iran situation is a hawkish American administration that are not be in the mood to concede much and neither will Iran.
No one wants to lose face here.
This problem is while we don’t know what will exactly happen, the problem does not look like it will go away.
The technical view
The markets have been trading in a channel for several weeks now and prices have steadied at near term support.
Taking a look at unleaded gas, prices have firmed at the bottom of the Bollinger band and near term momentum is turning up, with the stochastic indicator crossing to the upside.
Resistance is at the middle of the Bollinger band, if this is hurdled the contract should test the highs.
Expect unleaded gas to lead the advance over crude.
Risk / reward
It looks like a near term bottom is being formed, if prices open strongly and remain firm a buying opportunity is presenting itself with low downside risk.
The odds favor the bulls and a test of contract highs should take place shortly. There is plenty of speculative buying waiting on the sidelines to come in and push prices higher.
Watch today’s action for strength and upside momentum to carry prices higher into the close.
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Shall we move in together!
Having lived a life without children (not through anything else other than fete), having a place of my own and having some spare cash at the end of the month, what a culture shock to move in with the woman you love, but at the same time take on her 15 year old teenage son and 16 year old daughter. How can it be that teenagers in this modern day, do not know how to close doors and drawers, why does everything need to be done for them? They expect to live in a home and be able to treat it like a hotel? I will just use this item, I’m sure it will go back where I got it from on its own!
How about coming back from holiday and the teenage girl announcing that she is pregnant? Is she going to keep it and ruin her education - Yes of course she is!
Didn’t you take precautions? - Of course, but I must be one of the tiny percentage who it doesn’t work for! So its nothing to do with the fact that you always lose things, and forget things is it? What about the father, didn’t he take precautions? And where are you going to live when the baby comes along? At home of course!
Why do teenagers live in this modern world and not do anything in the home, albeit they are at college! Ever known a teenager put on a clean pair of traksuit bottoms and training top just go go football training and then place them in the wash upon returning from the hour’s training? How about the same teenager getting up in the morning, taking a shower, and then going to play football for the local team? I didn’t know a washing machine could operate for some many hours in the week!
Give them thier due, they do work part-time at the local supermarket which is less than one kilometre away. Time for work - Can I have a lift please!
When College breaks up for half or full term - why don’t they call it ‘Nothing to do, but watch TV and dvd’s time’. Whatever happened to going swimming or going for a bike ride with your mates?
Do manufacturers make products less reliable these days, are they supposed to have such a short life? I have never known so many items break, not work or become damaged as they do in our home!
Money grows on trees, Electricity and Gas are free! Food is plentiful, it doesn’t cost much so it doesn’t matter if I throw this out because I don’t like it! I don’t like this, that or the other, I want this because it’s what I fancy just now!!!! What is even more unbelievable is after eating so much food and throwng the rest away, an hour or so later ‘Im hungry so I will have somehting else to eat!? UNBELIEVABLE
Can’t say anything, pass any comment, or take any action - I’m the bad one, - I’m the one who their mother talks to like I’m evil! I’m the one who has to tolerate her being in a bad mod with me for however long!
I cook, clean up, take the dog out regularly, wash both cars, pay the majority of the bills. I’m the one who enabled them to move to a home near to where their friends live, I’m the one who has helped them move to a private home, and I’m sure I am the one who has helped improve thier lives - yet I’m the bad one!
Maybe it’s just that I’m getting older and expect too much! Or maybe it’s just that I was brought up with a lot more respect for things! Or maybe it’s just that I’m not set out for living with teenagers and thier modern ways! Whatever it is I’m sure that things have changed!!!
Good decision moving in with the woman you love and her two teenage children!
The author of this article works full time in the public service sector. This is the first article produced for public veiwing - any comments/feedback will be appreciated!
Teaching ESL to children is challenging but also very rewarding. Before I walk into a class of 10-year olds, I take a deep breath. Children have
no attention span AT ALL, and so I tell myself to slow right down before I start. Teaching children requires patience and a sense of fun and playfulness. Even though it seems obvious, a common mistake is to think that children are simply ’short adults!’ This is sure to get you off on the wrong foot!
Here are some tips for teaching ESL to children:
1. Involve Children in an hands-on Activities. Children’s minds are incredibly open and they learn by absorbing ideas and concepts directly. Children need to be actively involved. Get students up and out of their chairs and moving around. Sing songs, and play games.
2. Avoid talking for long periods of time. I find that the energy level of the classroom drops lower and lower. Explain an activity quickly and then go to it. Keep the energy moving! If your planned activity is a flop, move on. Keep a few extra activities handy for this purpose. Children need
lots of stimulation all the time.
3. Children learn by interacting with each other and with the teacher. Try to talk to each child individually each class. Whenever possible, have children working in groups and in pairs.
4. Review, Review, Review. New information is absorbed and has meaning when it is related to information students have already learned. Quickly review new concepts at the beginning of each class.
5. Encourage students to correct themselves and other students. Self correction or self-regulation is an important part of learning. Students should be encouraged to ask, “How am I doing?” and “Am I doing this right?” in an open and non-judgmental environment. Children raised in authoritative cultures may need additional re-inforcement.
6. Use what is learned in different contexts. The more contexts used the better, and the more concrete and ‘real life’ the contexts the better. Make it real for students by talking about them and their lives.
7. Praise, Praise, Praise. Encourage and build students up in a natural way. Learning occurs when students are motivated and feel good about themselves.
Looking back on my years of teaching, the children’s classes took a bit of getting used to, but were the most memorable and fun!
George and Daisy Stocker have traveled the world teaching
ESL to children and adults. Their website, ESL for Children
offers ESL curriculum, including textbooks and Storybooks for children
age 7 - 12. Their adult ESL site, ESL offers ESL
activites and curriculum for adults.
View their website at: www.esl-storybooks.com
Or should I say “Well Balanced Moms Are More Fun”? Let me ask
you… When was the last time you had lunch with some girl
friends, or went on a girl’s night out? When was the last time
you went on a romantic weekend getaway with your spouse? If you
can’t remember, we definitely have to talk.
It’s so easy to fall into the mommy guilt trap. We feel guilty
if we take time for ourselves, so we end up taking care of
everyone in the family but us. It’s easy to lose ourselves in
the quest to become SuperMom. Along the way we get stressed out
and aggravated. It’s important to do something just for us to
stay balanced moms. Here are some ways for you to get started on
your journey to rediscover YOU.
Get together with some girlfriends. One of the best ways to
rediscover yourself is to spend some time with your girlfriends
each week. Have lunch together, go to the movies to watch the
latest chick flick, or plan a girl’s night out every once in a
while.
If you are having a bad day, call one of your girlfriends to
vent, or just chat. You’ll be surprised how much better you feel
and how it puts things back in perspective that seemed like the
end of the world a few minutes ago.
Spend a romantic weekend with your spouse - anywhere but at
home. Go away for a romantic weekend with your spouse a few
times a year. Rekindle your passion for each other and feel in
love again, instead just partners in dealing with the everyday
“stuff’ involved in raising kids.
Go on a date every week. Get a sitter once a week and go on a
date with your significant other. Spend some time reconnecting
with each other. If you have an activity that you both enjoy,
take a class together.
Pamper Yourself. Do something every week to pamper yourself. Go
get a new haircut. Visit your favorite nail saloon for a
manicure, pedicure or to get your nails done. Call your favorite
day spa and schedule a facial. Get a massage.
If you are on a budget, pamper yourself at home. Send Dad and
the kids to the park. Take a hot bubble bath and paint you
toenails. Honey makes a quick facial. Place a cloth in warm
water and apply to your face to open the pores. Smear on honey,
and leave on for 15 to 30 minutes. Rinse off with warm water.
Don’t feel guilty about taking time for yourself a few times a
week. Your kids will appreciate it when they get a balanced and
fun mom in return. You will be more relaxed, happier and
actually be able to enjoy your family. After all, that’s why you
had kids in the first place, didn’t you?
